Forget ye not, opera babies: you can watch Glyndebourne’s production of Don Giovanni (with Gerald Finley, no less) for free for a week, starting today.  That’s what’s up.


You can listen to Susan Graham and David Daniels sings Xerxes via San Fran Opera tonight at 8 pm.  Opera is happening ALL OVER AND YOU HAVE FREE ACCESS TO IT.

Listen here: http://www.kdfc.com/S-F—Opera-on-KDFC/15764296




Susan Graham discusses the Rückert-Lieder (x)

In honor of Mahler’s birthday, here is SusieG talking about The Ruckert-Lieder. Her recording of this piece is probably my favorite of all. 

Even better is that this is talking about one of my all time favorite pieces of lied.  And the way she describes it is just so wonderful!

Oh Ms. Price…this is why you are my forever soprano love!  The expression in your voice is second to none, and the way you convey the full range of musicality in your voice is nothing short of magical.

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This was recorded by the Portsmouth Sinfonia in an experiment where all the members of the orchestra would swap instruments with each other and attempt to play them to the best of their ability.

favorite things about this

  • literally all the brass starts to get the hang of it and then the crescendos happen and everyone is like FUCK FUCK FUCK??? FUCK. JUST. BLOW RLY HARD.
  • the strings are lazy but also the same. like u can tell a lot of the ppl w/ the stringed instruments may already basically know how to play stringed instruments. like there’s definitely a section at the beginning where you hear a good portion going “oh yeah this is like. a smaller/bigger version of what i do.”
  • all you hear of any woodwinds is just “pffffttt??? pFFFTTTT???? PFFFFFTTTT I SAID PFFFFTTTT!!!!!” bc woodwinds are fucking HARD and you hear after like the first crescendo half of them just give up. they give up. they’re done. fuck this it tastes weird and my lips hurt.
  • that trumpet. that person is fucking TRYING man they fucking GOT this. they may not have figured out notes but they figured out LOUD and they GOT this.

Too bad I didn’t find this until after finals.  I am actually crying right now from laughing so hard!


If you are an up and coming opera singer and have performances, (if you want) send me details and I can post info on here.

Need to remember for later…

so my boyfriend asked for a "break" over the holidays because he doubts his feelings, one week after a ferocious make out session during which i refused to give my virginity to him. i said i was up for a blowjob tho, but anyway that didn't happen because condom issue, whatever. it's the holidays right now, but how should i act in school? im worried he'll tell everybody, and i still like him.


Readers won’t stop sending the Bad Advisor their real-ass questions to answer, so the Bad Advisor is periodically going to try her hand at answering them.


Dear Worried -

There is a lot going on in your very short letter. I think we need bullet points. 

  • Your virginity is not a magical present that you “give” to another person, who will then own your body parts, or your body generally, or your experience.

Based on the information in your letter and a general bullshit cultural narrative that teaches vagina-having people that their human worth is tied directly to what they do or do not do with their vaginae, the Bad Advisor guesses you’re a vagina-having person, specifically one who is describing “virginity” as “the first time anyone puts their penis in your vagina.”

Now, there’s a reason p-in-v sex is a pretty big deal: it’s the baby-making kind of sex, and people who have that kind of sex should do so responsibly and (as with all kinds of sex) consensually, because potentially putting more people on planet earth is serious business. You’ll notice that Bad Advisor calls p-in-v sex a “kind of sex,” rather than “sex.” P-in-v sex is just one thing on a really fucking big menu of fucking, and treating it as something you “give” to someone, rather than something you consensually experience with them, is a really great (read: terrible) way of putting your self-esteem in someone else’s hands. 

  • About that someone else: your boyfriend did you a favor by asking for a “break.

I know it sucks, but look here: you imply in your letter that you think maybe your boyfriend lost some of his feels for you, because you didn’t want to do p-in-v sex with him. And hey, that’s his decision to make. But you both have an equal right to decide what kind of sex, if any, you have with your partner(s). Which means that he can say he wants a girlfriend who will do p-in-v sex with him, and you get to say: I don’t want to do p-in-v sex. Shrug. I mean, that’s it. Maybe your boyfriend is a tool for ditching you after finding out he won’t get to do p-in-v sex with you, or maybe he’s just really tuned into what he needs out of a sexual relationship. Doesn’t matter, because either way, what he wants right now (p-in-v sex) is not compatible with what you want (not to have p-in-v sex) right now. The cookie: this is the way it crumbles.


I think that bullet point pretty much nails it. New bullet point time.

  • If you are worried your boyfriend will “tell everybody” anything you don’t want “everybody” to know, that dude needs to become your ex-boyfriend, PRONTO.

Friend, you are EXTREMELY smart and cool for not having p-in-v sex with this person in light of the fact that you cannot trust him not to betray your trust. Again, not because p-in-v sex is bad, but because a lot of people mistakenly, wrongly and totally shittily believe that whether or not a person has done p-in-v sex is important, relevant information about their worth as a person. It sounds like you think your boyfriend might be the kind of person who judges someone else for having p-in-v sex, or giving blowjobs, and I bet he’s not the only person at your school who does that. A lot of people who look down on girls who have p-in-v sex talk a lot about shit like “family values” but dearheart, listen to the Bad Advisor when she tells you:


The Bad Advisor is not totally clear on what you are afraid your boyfriend might “tell everybody,” but she reckons it could be (1) that sometimes you have oral sex with your partners (2) that you have not had p-in-v sex before (3) that you refused to have p-in-v sex with him (4) that you are on a “break” in your relationship.

From what I can tell, (4) is the only one of those options that might be literally any other person’s business, just from a practical standpoint of hey, maybe there’s not-total-piece-of-shit person out there who has been dying to flirt with you for ages but has restrained themselves out of respect for your relationship status. Bad Advisor wants you to meet that person! Or no person at all! Because no person is better than crappy gossipy boyfriend who tells your shit to other people without your consent.

So how should you act at school?

  • I think you meant: “How should I act at school after I make this ‘break’ into a permanent ‘break up’?” Right? Because you’re gonna make it clear to your boyfriend that not only are your sexual menus not coming from the same restaurant right now, you don’t trust him, and that’s an untenable relationship.

Of course you still like him, though! He has some redeeming qualities or you wouldn’t have gone out with him in the first place. But liking him doesn’t fix what’s wrong with your relationship, so here’s what you do: 

  1. Let yourself wallow and be sad about breaking up with this guy. Don’t fight those feelings. Those feelings are real and sucky, but burying them will be worse. Please trust the Bad Advisor’s personal experience on this. It’s okay to eat lunch in a trusted teacher’s room some days if you don’t want to deal with social time, or to get a bathroom pass when you really don’t have to go just so you can spend five minutes sitting alone in the quiet. If you are sad at school, be sad at school. You don’t have to be a ray of fucking sunshine, or pretend to be an emotionless robot. 
  2. USE SCHOOL TO YOUR ADVANTAGE! Friend, you have an institution around you that is just waiting to give you extra shit to do that will give you an easy out for awkward moments. Get busy with your studies, get or teach tutoring, take on an extra credit project, volunteer to help with some shit that needs helping. Shit gets awkward? People pick on you? OH SHIT YOU JUST REMEMBERED YOU’RE LATE FOR EXTRA CREDIT SQUARE DANCING.
  3. Stop wallowing and being sad after a while. Do this by reconnecting with friends you may not have seen as much of during your relationship with duder, or listening to music that makes you feel good, or watching marathon tv shows, or reading a new sci-fi series, or joining a new club at school or trying out for a play or something that requires your brain to reroute away from “mopeytime.”
  4. Definitely talk to your close, trusted friends about your feelings. But don’t overshare with randos and acquaintances about breaking up with this guy, and especially please don’t post about it on your Facebook or Twitter or Tumblr or wherever if he or your mutual acquaintances can see it; it is really no one’s business but yours and his. Drama is terrible and boring. If someone wants to get “the dirt” or some insipid, small-minded crap like that, be honest and brief: “It wasn’t working out between me and Horfus, and it’s been tough and weird adjusting to single life, but I think we’re both headed in good directions now. Have I told you about my extra credit square dancing? It’s great. [exegesis on square dancing]”
  5. It sounds like you are into dating and trying out sexy things with your partners; continue to do this safely and consensually, and at a pace with which you are comfortable. Interrogate where any feelings of shame or guilt may come from: do they come from generalizations other people make about the way you, or people like you, “should” behave? Because that is bullshit, and it is also HARD AS FUCK to combat; it takes all of us regular check-ins with ourselves and our bodies to experience and explore our sexuality without all the crappy messages society sends us about what is “right” and “wrong” for people to do.

You actually are kind of a special snowflake; be kind to yourself, and live your sexuality on your terms, not other people’s terms.

Bad Advice, my ass!  The Bad Adviser is right on here, and gives such heartfelt, well-put advice to this ask-er, that I wish she would write all self-help relationship and sex guides!


I honestly struggle to understand how people think classical music is serious when there is literally a 19th century duet that is nothing but two sopranos singing the word “meow” over and over again.


Last night, 111.5 million U.S. viewers and many more abroad tuned in and witnessed a historical first: an initial score within the first 12 seconds of a Super Bowl game due to a safety.

Just had to break the ice a bit on that one, because this entry is, of course, going to focus on another…

Typical Practice Day
Me: Yeah PRACTICE. Gunna get better gunna win auditions gunna have a future gunna get a job not gunna starve MUSIC
Me: looooong toonnneeessss
Me: Wow that sounds terrible
Me: Oh wait no it's good again
Me: Nevermind
Me: scales scales scales scales
Me: Articulation sucks
Me: Full range scales are against my religion
Me: Fuck yeah Mozart so classy
Me: I hate Mozart
Me: nvm Mozart ilu
Me: Why is this so hard
Me: Beethoven why would you write that you cruel human being
Me: I just played that to feel good about myself didn't I
Me: Wow I suck at practicing can't focus
Me: What am I gunna do tonight
Me: I am hungry
Me: Wow I am a loser focus
Me: But I am so hungry
Me: Bach doesn't care if you're hungry